Something Changed Me!

My boys, my life-enhancers, did not have it easy growing up with me. I always thought that showing tough love was the best way to guide them.

In 2024, something happened that made me reconsider my approach. My younger son was adamant about staying up late playing games, but as a ‘good’ mother, I believed he should be in bed at a reasonable time, especially since he was still in high school.

I kept asking him to do what was ‘right,’

To go to bed and sleep well at night,

But my words were just flying in the air like a kite.

One day, I decided to handle it my own way and, suffice it to say, I did just that and felt quite satisfied afterward. But the Lord didn’t approve. He waited until I went to bed that night and then spoke to me indirectly through a dream. In the dream, my dear son had died, and I cried like a baby. The grief was overwhelming. It left me filled with regret – regret for not guiding him more gently, for not showing more patience. I wished I could turn back the hands of time, but thankfully, it was only a dream.

During that day break, I apologized to him sincerely and from that moment on, I changed how I dealt with him. I approached him with more understanding, more gentleness, and my son’s behavior began to change for the better.

That experience became a turning point. It taught me that sometimes love isn’t about being tough – it’s about listening, guiding, and nurturing with wisdom, patience, and compassion.